Wednesday, April 12, 2006

Go, white girl, go, white girl, GO!

Our family is a backwards oreo, when you first look at us - lots of vanilla and a little chocolate. Fortunately, my three year old brings LOTS of chocolate to the mix, and the rest of us just fall more and more in love with what it means to be African American every day.

Our little angel is finally at a point where we can enjoy her hair ... because she has some! While a lot of transracially adoptive parents utilize hair salons, I am determined to hone my skills at twists, braids, etc. I have spent hours and hours learning about the two AA camps: chemically treated hair vs. natural hair. I stop AA women in the store all the time and say, "Your hair is so cool! How'd you do that???" At which point I usually have to explain that I have a child of color. Otherwise they're thinking, "Girl, you forgot to take your medication today."

So, while I have become a pro at twists, I was determined to do some braids. My daughter is obsessed with beads right now. Here is my first attempt at braids-n-beads (please note: this is TWO DAYS after the fact, so you're seeing a lot of whispies pulling out - it really ROCKED the first day!).


I've learned a big secret - Sponge Bob! She will sit and be wonderfully patient, as long as Sponge Bob is on!

Another little funny ... all of my WHITE friends will ask who did her hair, and when they find out it was me, they just ooooo and aaaaahhhh. My black friends? They just say, "Ohhhhh, you did her hair! Good for you!" They've been doing it for years. They can spot a white girl attempt a mile away.

My goal? For my sister friends to one day never know the difference!

For now, my little sweetheart seems to be thrilled with her mother's attempts.

12 comments:

thegoodgeeks said...

Your daughter is gorgeous!!!

Stacey said...

Oh my gosh, she is five kinds of cute. I love seeing pictures of her. Don't tell my son this, but I'm a little bummed that I won't have a girl around because I LOVE DOING HAIR.

Anonymous said...

My husband and I (we are as white as you can get)adopted 3 children....one of which is bi-racial. My neighbors are African-American and one day she asked me who did my daughter's hair. I told her I did and she told me, "Girl, you get on with your black self." Boy, did I feel good, because the hair was my biggest worry about adopting her.

Shawnda said...

You did a GREAT job!!!! I'm impressed!!! I have a LOT of learning to do, but it's hard right now b/c our little one doesn't have much hair.....and she's pretty much BALD in the back of her head : ( Did you ever face that? Do you know of any products that are supposed to help that? I see some in the stores, but I don't know if they are things that AA people REALLY use or not....and if they are safe for a 16 mo old!!! We thought patience would do it.....but it's been 8 mo and no growth in that area!!!!

Jenn said...

Haha! Awesome!! She's so cute!

Christine said...

Shawnda,

I'm emailing you!

jess said...

Wow! I'm really impressed and she's super cute.

Christine Brannan said...

She is beautiful!

Amie said...

I love "doing black hair"! I am definatly in the natural camp at this point, I have yet to have an AA girl of my own though so we will see. It is SO much fun! I can't wait.

tracey fields said...

i'm going to post a pic of oue 7 month old...with all of her hair on my site...but i am PRO natural products for the hair...my friend said that alot of chemicals can break their hair off. there is a store in dallas called the Pan-African Book Store that has a product called Nature's Blessings...it has helped so much. can't wait to read more. love your post.

tracey fields said...

BTW- her hair looks awesome!

Emily said...

Way to go with the hair! She looks adorable. I'm hoping for a girl to try it out on, too. Just have to keep trying to talk DH into Rwanda adoption! LOL.