Thursday, August 23, 2007

Why did she have to be a veergin?

I think I've made it clear that I talk to my kids about sex, pregnancy, childbirth, breastfeeding, and the like quite openly. I have never NOT answered any question they have asked on the subject. I feel a slight advantage having had all of the required training in obtaining our foster care license. It was eye opening, but just reinforced what my husband and I already believed needed to happen in educating our children about their bodies.

So ... that little preface leads us to some schoolwork yesterday. We use LifePacs, and it is Bible based curriculum. My son was working on his Bible lesson which was discussing Mary and the conception of Jesus. We have talked about so many subjects dealing with sex that it never dawned on me that he had never paid attention to the word "virgin."

A: "Mom, why was it such a big deal that Mary was a veeergin (said with a hard g sound!)?"

Me: "Well, what exactly does your book say?" (I was terribly curious. They were going to approach the subject, so how well were they going to tackle it?

A: "It says a virgin is a woman who has never been married."

Me: "Actually, that's not true at all. A virgin is a woman who has never had sex."

Mac: "YEAH!"

We had a fabulous refresher course on the necessity of sperm and egg in conception, where those two things live and how they come together. So, if Jesus was truly a part of God, she had to become pregnant from a miracle of God (crazy-amazing God sperm). If she and Joseph had sex before they got married and she got pregnant, then Jesus was just another normal dude ... which is what some people believe ... which led to another very interesting discussion ...

We all agreed that the good people at Alpha Omega knew that some Christian schools use this curriculum, and seeing how you should only discuss sex with your parents, they did not use the correct definition. Perhaps it should have said,

Virgin: Go ask your parents.

And on that subject, my most highly recommended book to start reading to your kids when they are tiny (and pull it out a few times a year throughout grade school), is Margaret Sheffield's "Where Babies Come From." You'll only find it used, so it won't cost you much (Amazon always has a few copies).


Cammie said...

Seems to be quite a theme going this week! I love how you are so open with your kids. I remember when Jake was just a little tike, we starting teaching Jake about body parts. We did not want him to use the word 'pee pee' (or whatever other made up word parents use) for his penis and scrotum. He would walk around at 2 1/2 saying, 'Boys have a peanut and girls have a vagina.' My friends were horrified that we had taught him 'those words' (Oh, the horror!)! My response was always, "Well, that's what it is, isn't it?" To which they would have no response!

Anyway, I will check out that book because if we keep using this same dictionary, we will have more and more of these discussions!

Cammie said...

Tagged you on my blog. Would love to know your answers.

Amanda said...

haha...I love his pronunciation of virgin! too cute! And I, as a teacher of life span development, appreciate parents who talk to their kids about this stuff! I teach juniors and seniors and they think they know some stuff, but it's usually a little wrong! Kudos my friend!

Wendy Hawksley said...

Awww, thanks for the comment! And very funny post... I'll have to refer to it when my son is old enough to ask what "virgin" means! Heh heh.

Stretch Mark Mama said...

Love it! Here's my latest sex ed story:

From a fellow pastor-wife, homeschoolin' crazy mama to 3 and 1/2 kids, two which will be adopted.

flutterby said...

Awesome. GOod times. When I nannied my godsons, their mama was very open about whatever they wanted to talk about. We all believe that death is a part of life and should be regarded as such, so is sex, so are our bodies ect. That led to many a discussion. My husband doesn't happen to share this mind set and didn't really apreciate hearing me say things like "J please don't play with your penis in the living room. That is for alone time only." hehehehe (jake was six at the time and needed such reminders...ah boys...)