How the pastor's wife had sex every day for a week

I hear you. I read the emails. Really, I do!

This particular post is for my gal pals only. Men and children, please depart. Return another day.

Thank you.

Yes, my husband I and were intimate seven days in a row. Heck, just getting to five was a new record for our 13-year marriage (or four - we're still disagreeing on that point). Even that little streak was a one time thing.

I thought I should clarify a few things. Some bullet points to help you understand we are not nympho's and we are not above average.

* Our goal was to have sex as many times as we could in a seven day period. We never expected to actually complete said challenge. I can barely get my hair washed most days. Oh, who are we kidding? I don't get my teeth brushed most days.

* To complete this whole challenge thing, I had to sacrifice several other things in my life. I chose to. Some days I was feeling a little resentful. Then I thought, "Wait a friggin' minute?! This is my MARRIAGE. This will be a very unique thing for us. It can't hurt, and it just might help."

* We have five children, most with some special needs and interesting *cough* behaviors. Our home is never romantic. Ever. The best time for being alone in the 'ole marriage bed is after everyone else is in bed and with the radio cranked to block any iota of noise. I don't ever have to worry about talking dirty. It's not like we could hear each other over the music anyway.

* I had a chest cold the entire week. It was really bad the first three nights. There was no kissing. Very Julia-Roberts-in-Pretty-Woman.

* I was not in the mood - not once - during the entire seven days. I have a slew of kids. I was sick. This whole new birth control pill thing has tanked the old libido. However, it's kinda' like Sunday night church. If you just get yourself there, it's quite possible you'll leave feeling blessed. At the very least, you will bless someone else.

* I am not some spring chicken (my 80-year-old friends beg to differ, but I am speaking in a peri-menopausal mindset). I have to know my limitations and plan accordingly.

* Because most of our "interaction" happens in the evenings, it makes sleep more difficult for me (you would think it's the opposite, but it's just not!). I made the decision to lose sleep. I wasn't sure how many days we would make it. I lost a lot of sleep.

* The cold, hard truth is, with a little help and a little sacrifice, you can have sex with your husband. You don't have to give yourself to him for a week ... but maybe once a week? Could you set a goal for two nights in a row, just to surprise the heck out of him?

Do you like unexpected surprises? Well, so does he. Sure, there are always times when someone is barfing or up all night with an ear infection or you have a bad rash or you are falling asleep sitting up. Some days I can't laugh for the crying. Yet, I do sacrifice for my kids all the time. I have come to realize I wasn't sacrificing my own comfort for my husband in a way that would bless the bazoogle out of him AND grow our marriage. I used "not being in the mood" as a justification for letting another day go by.

I have a lot of women tell me their husband doesn't deserve it, because he isn't doing things for them on a regular basis, either. Been there, said that. Basically, it was like we were playing chicken with our marriage years ago. Neither of us were going to give first.

Yeah, that's healthy. That's the kind of marriage I want to emulate for my kids. Mmmm Hmmm. I was quite the role model, let me tell ya'.

Show your husband physical love this week. You are a blessing. You are hot. You are a treasure. You shouldn't be wasted. Your marriage deserves the erotic gift that is YOU. Your husband is not perfect. He is sometimes hurtful. He is sometimes selfish. You both are. You are one. So, throw some steam on that mess.

You just might leave with a blessing.








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