Wednesday, May 06, 2009

Mother's Day sucks


One of my kids was quite surprised at therapy yesterday when our therapist told her Sunday is Mother's Day.

You see, we haven't talked about it at all.

Kids with a history of early childhood trauma tend to HATE MOTHER'S DAY! Or, as my sweetheart told us yesterday, they just doesn't want THEIR mother to have Mother's Day.

I love how they can actually say it out loud. *cough*

This is the first Mother's Day for them where they actually feel threatened by me. Last year, they hadn't been here quite a month. They were still honeymooning. I got a big, sloppy, "I love you, Mom!" card from one of them. Sappy. Had to be bigger and more sparkly than all the others. It was all for show, and I knew it.

This year ... not so much.

So, we are downplaying Mother's Day. Saturday I will take off for several hours. I'm sure I will drink a lot of coffee and browse a lot of books. While I am gone, my husband will tell the kids to get crackin' if they want to make me something. No pressure. Just a suggestion. When I return home - SURPRISE! He will have them present me with their homemade cards and such, and that's that.

Mother's Day will be over before it even begins.

Sunday can just be Sunday.

13 comments:

Homer and Queen said...

You are my hero...

Llama Momma said...

You rock, Christine.

Happy Mother's Day. :-)

Diana said...

We're going to do a letter to S. (birthmother) hopefully this afternoon. Our therapist suggested sending that letter away in a balloon. Since we don't know where S is, we can ask God to take this note to her whereever she is or wherever it needs to go. I'll definately be proposing this idea to my DS.

We'll be going to grandma's to do most of our celebrating. She called me this morning and informed me there is a real live, honest to goodness demolition derby in their town this weekend(where real drivers deliberately drive around an arena and crash up old cars). They've cancelled it the past 3 years. I pray...yes, on my knees pray... they don't cancel it this year! Not only are they stinking red neck style fun for the whole family, but it would also be a very good activity for my little RADlings to participate in (in a spectator sort of way) this weekend. :-)

Hannah_Rae said...

I am excited about my first mother's day. My men-folk have something up their sleeves, but I have no idea what. All I know is that our eldest will not let me forget what Sunday is.

Despite the downplaying, I hope you feel loved-on this mother's day.

Blessings!

Hannah

ps. I really don't think I have the courage to say what you told me to say in your comment, but somehow I could totally see YOU saying that. :)

Hope said...

I, too, hope that your understated Mother's day makes you feel appreciated and loved! Happy Mother's Day!

Lisa said...

Regardless whether Mar knows it or not she is very richly blessed to have you as her very Awesome Mom.

Regardless you are loved by all of us because you're you.

I heart you Christine. You rock my world.

Sara said...

Oh man that must be hard hard to hear her say it! Of course we're all glad that she can speak her truth and know her emotions. You are an amazing strong woman of God. I hope you have a wonderful wonderful saturday and that Mar suprises you a bit.

sandwichinwi said...

Happy Mother's Day to you! And I hope it will be happy for you.

You are an awesome and amazing mom!

Blessings,
Sandwich

Elizabeth said...

I'm not a fan of Mother's Day myself for different reasons. I hope your understated day is perfect in every way!

BullSnikle said...

If anyone deserves a Mother's Day it's you. You're amazing.

Brenda said...

((((((((((((hugs)))))))))) You are spectacular!

T & T Livesay said...

happy flippin mothers day

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