Friday, November 06, 2009
My thoughts on "The Gay's" adopting and marrying
I love, love, LOVE it when I hear someone use the phrase "The Gay's." Sounds like you're talking about "The Partridge Family." No, it's not politically correct by any means, but I will say it's one of the cutest forms of uncomfortable labeling I have ever heard.
heh. Still makes me giggle. Kinda' like how our pal,Willie, refers to my youngest as "The Little Black One." Soooooo off the charts inappropriate, but genuine, none-the-less. And it is said endearingly.
If you know me personally, or for any length of time, you know that I think it's fine for anyone to adopt ... as long as they have proven themselves capable. Period. Beyond that, I have no argument. So, yeah. That means I'm cool with "The Gay's" raising kids. I'm cool with single parents raising kids. I'm cool with grandparents raising kids. Every child and every home is different. No system is perfect and there are mess-up's. Sometimes there are catastrophic mess-up's. Yet, there are wonderful adults who daily commit themselves to the lifetime of children ... and it is beautiful.
Not everyone SHOULD adopt, but for the people who are qualified, prepared and willing, I think those children are blessed. If I thought that only those who believe and follow Jesus Christ, and are active in their local church are the only people who should be parents ... then I should be trying to pass laws to stop any other person in any other circumstances from adopting.
Yet, that's not what people do. Their concerns just lie with "The Gay's."
I believe you can have a different theology ... heck, a different faith system (or no faith system) from me and be a great parent. I know lots of Christ followers. I would not give all of them a recommendation to an adoption agency. Not by a long shot. Wouldn't give all of my gay friends a recommendation to an adoption agency. And even in that, it doesn't mean those people won't reach a point where they would be able to give an adopted child all they need.
Now, because I believe it is absolutely okay for "The Gay's" to adopt, I also believe it is absolutely okay for them to marry.
Ya' know, if marriage had only ever been something practiced by a certain religion, and those churches were the only ones to perform the ceremonies, and any rights or privileges were only church-related, then it wouldn't even be a question. Yet, marriage in America is all twisted up in our system of government. If you are married, you receive, on average, 400 legal and economic rights and privileges on the state level and 1,000 on the federal level. To deny these rights and privileges does not only affect the parents, but also the children in their homes. It hurts families.
I'm not okay with that. I want to strengthen families, even the ones who do not look like mine. So, I will vote and share my beliefs accordingly. I DO want people to change their mind on these topics, but I also know that others want ME to change my mind on these topics. It just comes down to the vote.
I also realize that some of you have a very burning question: Does Christine believe homosexuality is a sin?
For me, the more thought-provoking question is: Why have I never had a gay friend ask me that? Not once. Ever.
There are some who would say they don't ask because they don't want to know the truth. Oh my goodness, I wholeheartedly disagree. At the time of this writing I cannot think of one single friend of mine, who is LGBTQI+, who did NOT grow up in a Christian home ... not one (and I have a slew of "The Gay's" in my circle). They did VBS and Bible Drill and Catechism and church camp. I know that because I know THEM. We know each other. We talk a lot about God and church and Jesus. We also talk about kids and spouses and grocery lists. We have relationship together. We share life. I learn about their history and beliefs and they learn about mine. That is how we get our questions answered.
"The Gay's" ... every single one I know (and I'm sure there are plenty of which I'm unaware in my life), have experienced hurt and pain and confusion beyond anything I can comprehend. They are not considered equal to the rest of us. They lose their jobs. They, and their children, are harassed. They have been demonized. They are labeled as perverts and pedophiles. Statistics are skewed by those who claim the name of Christ to validate these lies. It is a big, horrible, giant mess ...
and I think we keep asking the wrong questions.
(photo by am y)