Wednesday, January 27, 2010

Therapeutic Parenting - Finding the Positive







19 comments:

Shan said...

You're a pro YOU. YOU are a PRO! Famous you will be with your Radical tips and training. Salute. I also wanted to punch you because of the cuteness.

alicia said...

You and your dready goodness are so right on. Thank you for this reminder.

Hillary said...

I LOVE YOU!

I would like to use this vid for my entire inner city school staff. We're right in the middle of implementing a program called "positive behavior support" right now and we JUST talked about this stuff. This is SO spot and and PRACTICAL! Thank you!

Hannah_Rae said...

Thank you. :)

And good night.

Blessings!

Hannah

Kerrie said...

Wow. In the words of my 3-year-old, "good stuff. This is gooood stuff." Very practical, and I can already invision how to use it. My big sigh (and head in my hands on my bad days) changes her whole body language. This will help me so much!

Lynn said...

You are amazing and have been speaking straight to my heart lately. I think it's important to note that many, many, many of the things you're saying benefit ALL children - not just traumatized ones. Your advice is practical and easy to understand and apply. Thank you!!

Little Wonder said...

thank you! are we okay to share this?

I feel my body sink when things start to happen (or not happen) and my RAD can read that like an open book. Trying to show no reaction, while engaging in positive therapuetic behavior is challenging....but the rewards are seeing genuine smiles on happy kids.

Christine said...

Yes, absolutely! This is a public video on YouTube, just for that reason!!!

kristal said...

it was really hard to focus on what you were saying cuz i was envying how cute you looked. but, for the moments i got over it and paid attention i was thoroughly challenged and encouraged. i am QUEEN of the huge sigh and body slump so i got the trigger down pat....now i just need to transition to the praise portion. i'll letcha know when i get that mastered:)

BT said...

Fantastic. Thanks. (And that "ughhh" you feel/do is mine as well. I'm now going to make it my cue.)

Ursula said...

Christine, these are great ideas. I wonder though, do you think this kind of praise is appropriate for a 14 and 15 year old. Is seems very young to congratulate them on getting dressed for the day. Should I be finding other types of things to praise them for? More 'grown up' things like getting their hair fixed or making their lunch for the day.

Christine said...

Absolutely depends on the kid ... and the day ... or the hour!

I should clarify - I have congratulated my older kids for dressing appropriately. Because they have always had clothes on, but ... :)

Christine said...

Also depends on what you have to work with. Maybe they got up, got dressed, fixed their hair, ate their breakfast, washed their dishes and then SHUT DOWN.

If all you have to work with in that moment are the basics, then go with that.

Heather said...

Thank you so much for sharing this! I used it just today on my child that has auditory processing issues and it worked sooo well! I just began homescooling him and it can be really challenging. I'm looking forward to using it on my children with attachment issues as well!

Heather and Brad said...

I've been stalking your blog for a while but I haven't ever commented. I don't even remember how I found you but I'm so glad I did! I have 4 RADalicious kids and 1 bio daughter. I homeschool my kids and my oldest daughter, 10 year old, has been in a real stubborn, stuck mode lately. She pretends for days to not know something she's known for years, pees all over the house. Screams for hours and breaks anything she gets her hands on. Not that any of this is new behavior for us, but it's been escalating with her. So between your post on shame and this video I decided to do something different with her. I went to her room where she was breaking her curtain rod, and sitting in a puddle of pee. We went to the bathroom and I made a bubble bath for her telling her that she will smell like roses (she often smells worse than any other human being I've ever met). After she got out I helped her clean up all the urine and feces in her room. We washed her sheets, bedspread and pillows together. All the while I was telling her that I know she was having a hard time lately but I was there to help her through it. Thank you bunches for the aweseome reminders in your posts and this video. It was just what I needed to keep me going through the day!! I am definatly a loyal reader!

Christine said...

Oh, Heather, you are so very welcome. It's the reminders that keep me going. It does get old, and you just fall out of the stuff you know you need to do.

Funny ... the other day I walked up to Mar while she was on the computer. Kissed her forehead. She smelled really good. That like NEVER happens. Before I knew it, she was quite annoyed, "Mom, um, could you please stop smelling my head." Guess I overstayed my welcome. :)

Jessi Hacker said...

this is amazing

Jessi Hacker said...

please help me

lavendergardener said...

Your "I wonder when you will be strong enough..." has been H.U.G.E. with my kids... Thank you!