Monday, April 19, 2010

Video: "Therapeutic Parenting - Is Love Enough?"

30 comments:

Annie said...

I think this is the most beautiful testimony I have ever heard.

Thank you from the bottom of my heart.

BeckyJoie said...

Exactly! that is what I call love too. In fact, that is part of what I am currently writing about.

T & T Livesay said...

you are brave and strong - which is why you CHOOSE love

Kerrie said...

Oh, Christine, that was unbelievably beautiful. It took my daughter to show me how hideously selfish a lover I am. But I keep going. Oh, every day, how I try. Thank you. Again.

Serolynne said...

You are so inspirational and brave and beautiful. I am so thankful that there are parents in the world like you who are giving the future the greatest gift with the chance you are giving your kids.

Hannah said...

The last part of this passage "always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres" has become our family motto, but the part that hit me tonight, which I am going to have to do some praying and heart searching on, is that Love does not demand it's own way.

How does that fit into my parenting view?

Love you! Thank you.

And thank you, Jesus for being perfect Love.

Not A Mountain said...

Aw, you just moved this dirt worshipping pagan to TEARS! I LOVE YOU! You are totally awesome. ((((standing ovation))))

Roblynn said...

Beautiful and well said! I needed that soo badly, I think it was just for me :) Just got off the phone with my "inmate" and he was angry because I was not there earlier, love is surely not always reciprocated! Again thank you.

Anonymous said...

Just wanted to say I am sorry for the email. I'm concerned it overwhelmed you and I regretted it the moment I hit the send button. Take good care.

Diana said...

A-MEN! So well said, so well put, still so wish you were my neighbor! :-)

You know, I couldn't help but have my mind wander as you were reading this to the greatest act of love in all of human history. My thoughts turned to Christ's crucifixion and his plea to the Father to "Forgive them for they know not what they do." In his greatest moment of agony and despair, amidst physical and emotional pain we can't even begin to imagine, he still pled for mercy and forgiveness for those very people who were hurting him so deeply.

I don't believe our children hurt us on purpose. In fact, I believe in those moments when they do hurt us to our very core and scare the bejeebees out of us, (Oh yah, BTDT, so get what that means!) they have no idea what they're really doing. They are reacting out of their own pain and fear and desperation...all of which cloud their ability to reason or even string two rational thoughts together. It's in those very moments, those moments when they are at their worst and doing their most unthinkable stuff, that they so desperately need our patience, our kindness, our willingness to go the distance with them, our unconditional love and acceptance and above all else, they need our forgiveness.

Anonymous said...

This post is beautiful, heartwarming --and made me cry. What I needed I guess. Thanks, Lori

Angela said...

This is so moving! Thank you very much.

radmama said...

I am so blessed that God has placed you in my path! I've been on this journey for three years and have found so much support from other moms in the trenches who are willing to bare their souls in writing. Yours is a blog that I point so many to, because you have a way of reaching us where we are and helping us up. Thank you.
Be blessed.
radmamadread

Meghan said...

((((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))))))

This was a beautiful vlog mama. You are so strong and loving. Much love to you!!!!!

Domestic Accident said...

Wow.

J. said...

love, love, crazy love, I feel the same way. Well said Chrisitne, well said indeed.

BT said...

I needed this today. My kid has hurt and scared me too, and is right now (past two weeks), and you have helped me find strength to keep responding the way he needs me to. Thanks.

That Crazy Family said...

OK now I need some tissues! Wonderful!!

johnsonweider said...

Wow. Thank you for sharing this. Thank you!

Cathy Givans said...

I LOVE YOU!!! Thank you so much for always sharing your heart with us! :) *HUGS*!!!

Heather said...

AMEN AMEN AMEN AMEN!!!!!! It took me way longer than it should've to move from a selfish, needing feedback sort of love to this kind of love. Not that I even do it now, but I atleast know what I am striving for(: Thanks again for doing these - seriously, it is so so so so very helpful in so many ways, not the leats of which is just knowing others are out there fighting the good fight.

Amy said...

Love this blog and love this post. My daughter isn't dealing with RAD, but yet you still challenge and encourage me to be a better mom. Thank you!

Threads of Light said...

Question: how do you give this kind of love, when you don't feel it?

Answer: you just do your best at treating people the way you've described in that video, and the feeling comes. Eventually.

Thank you. I kind of knew but didn't really know how much of a "needing feedback" love person I was (thank you to the commenter above for that phrase)...now I know that this higher kind of love is the only true one. Wow.

photogirl said...

Wow!! So beautiful!! I can tell it was spoken from your heart! Thank you so much for the encouraging and inspiring thoughts that you share on that passage of the Bible.

Colleen said...

Christine: Lovely Lovely post.

I too aknowledge that love just isnt enough for my RADish. Me loving her will by itself not heal her hurts. But LOVE unconditional, and compassionate is what drives every step of the healing process. From reading others radical blogs to therapists to special schools to theraputic parenting. these things are sustainable because above all else I LOVE my daughter, whether or not she ever loves me back.

The Lundys said...

awesome, i needed to hear this tonight. thank you.

Jenni said...

After the day I've had with my son, this was something I definitely needed to hear. Especially the part about being "irritable" and "demanding its own way." *sigh* I, like my children, am still a work in progress.

yes-I'm a man said...

Mixing good theology with daily praxis is one of the toughest things we do as parents of children who wound us deeply.

Owlhaven said...

thanks-- this was great!

Mary

CORoots said...

I love your honesty at the end of this video! I messed up the other day and listened to our family therapist during a crisis. She instructed me to take Zane to the hospital and I did. Now he's committed for the 72 hour hold and while he said he was hearing voices, he's also drastically changed the way he described them. I want him home so I can love him. I'm visiting him and calling him, but I feel so certain this has done more harm than good. I simply cannot show him my love while he's there. Not the way I can when he's home anyway. So, I'm spending my morning here, with your site, waiting until I can see him again. Thank you for your blogging and your authenticity. I'm pretty sure I'll never reach out the way I did to the "resource" I did again. Can't do my work without the recipient.