I get that question a lot.
The quick answer? I'm glad we've done it.
We invited Reactive Attachment Disorder and Post Traumatic Stress Disorder into our home. You can read/learn/listen til your eyes pop out, but nothing - zero - zilch - can prepare you for what it is like to fight for attachment when a child is doing everything in their power, night and day, to stop it from happening.
It's sometimes unbearable.
But ... it's possible. Healing is possible. Their potential CAN be reached, and it looks different for every single kid.
Today marks two years since we brought two of our kids home. I will not kid you. It feels WAY longer. The past two years have been a very purposeful, therapeutic intensive. We planned it that way and built our lives around it. We are just now loosening up those boundaries and allowing more freedoms and choices every day ... sometimes realizing they aren't developmentally ready and we have to back up.
I am so glad we have done this for our kids. Would I do it again? Nah. I think we'll just keep on doing it right here as long as they need me. Because we're not done. They still need consistency and the safe space we work so hard to create every day.
In the meantime, I continue to be amazed at the bravery and accomplishments of my children.
The only thing harder than parenting them is being them.