Wednesday, May 12, 2010

Beauty


The same week my dreadlocks turned six months old, I heard the following from the mouth of my 10-year-old daughter:

"My stomach is chubby. I want to be skinny."

Cuts. right. through. me.

You can create an environment and a home which celebrates diversity and embraces the true beauty in all people, yet the media still finds its way into their thought process. It isn't constant, but sometimes there is a window of vulnerability, and it slips right through and nestles into their delicate hearts. I have found freedom from it, and simply continue to live out my truth for my daughters.

I love myself.

I love every inch of me.




I am beautiful. My body tells a story.

My weathering hands mark my experiences and all those I have touched.
My straining eyes reflect all I have seen.
My sagging breasts tell of the life-giving milk they have shared.
My thinning skin gives a window into the very blood which has sped up through its passages with my changing lifestyle.
My feet very wisely created barriers of protection, representing the many miles I have walked in my own shoes.
My wayward eyebrows remind me of the freedom I have given myself to grow and change in whatever directions I should.
My legs show the falls and scrapes and tumbles ... and the healing.

This is beauty.



22 comments:

Adoption of Jane said...

You are very beautiful! Keep teaching her well, she will get it.. what we are taught when we are young has a way of bursting through us in our Adulthood, at just the right time, not a second sooner or a minute later, but... when we really need it your wisdom will grasp her and strengthen her identity and allow her to become the woman that you have installed deep within her

kristen said...

Beautiful

Corey said...

Seriously. I see advertisements for anti-wrinkle cream, and I'm like.. are you KIDDING? I earned every damn one of these, and you CANNOT keep them from me.

Of course, I do color my hair, but that is really not to color the gray as much as it is to practice for when I join the Witness Protection Program.

Casey said...

Corey. You crack me up. You can come live with me, and I will never tell your kids where you are. :)

Christine- you are so right. My girls are amazingly beautiful, but one of them said the other day, "Do you think my thighs are too big?" WHAT? But then later, this same girl was looking at the gray hairs on my head and I said, "Pull them out!" (I was totally joking.) She replied, "I can't pull them out. The Bible says they're a sign of wisdom. Then you won't be wise anymore." Ah, good point. :) That's the message I want her to hear.

Jessi Hacker said...

I love this!

hopefuloffive said...

Thanks for this. Our daughter home from Haiti (just turned 8 and seriously an absolutely gorgeous child) has been saying that she doesn't like her skin (think rich dark chocolate) and that she doesn't think she is pretty. It is a hard thing to deal with...but so much of it starts with us and how we see ourselves and how their daddy sees them too... so much pressure in this media filled culture of the US.

Flat Foot Floozy said...

Love this post!! You are so beautiful as every woman should feel. I recently complained in front of my 4 year old:( about myself being FAT. She simply said "Mommy if you feel FAT, you just can't be lazy...if you want to be healthy like me you have to get up and move around." WOW.....I love that she did not say to be skinny like me but HEALTHY. I love her and that was great advise. You always hope you teach your children the "right" things, but life is life and as long as they understand that.....we will all benefit♥

tikesbestfriend said...

Amen!

The Hippie Moose said...

Your love for yourself reflects the love of your Creator so well, you are truly inspiring.

familygregg said...

You must be a fly on my wall.

Christine said...

Dawn, I have had your house bugged for the past year.

Put some pants on, will ya'?

Roblynn said...

One good reason to live in Central America. All women, and I mean all and any are beautiful here. My son was amazed when he came here to visit that the guys check out each and every girl. Fat, skinny, it does not matter they see beauty in all things feminine. though it does gross my kids out a bit when the old guys try and pick up on their mother, that is just weird :)

Denise said...

This is a great reminder - thanks! My daughter is just 2, but I'm trying so hard not to make "I feel fat" comments around her - better yet, not at all. Not even to myself. It's a work in progress...

MadHatter said...

Yeah!!! I needed that today (who am I kidding...I need it everyday)

Candis said...

Amen Hopefuloffive. The angst our children experience when they feel they don't measure up is doubled in our sweet brown-skinned Haitian children. The skin--the hair--these kids can't catch a break (at least in their own eyes. (And I am AA!!!)

Christine, you are a gift that keeps on giving. Mil gracias.

Cathy Givans said...

Just what I needed to hear in my current state of "I'm fat and am NOT doing anything about it."

nicole said...

Thanks I need this today.

Misty said...

you are gorgeous and this is so beautiful... It kills me how this does happen, no matter how we try to protect them!

Brenda said...

Beautiful thoughts. Dramatic things began to happen to my body and skin at age 50. At first they were disturbing but by now, at age 53, they are reassuring. I am more fully who I am because I can no longer hide behind trying to look youthful....if that made any sense.

The Shingletons said...

This is beautiful. Can I copy it to my blog? Shawnah

Christine said...

Can't actually copy it, but you can certainly link directly to this post!

http://www.welcometomybrain.net/2010/05/beauty.html

blondeoverboard said...

i just discovered your blog today and all i can say is you so rock! this was awesome! thanks for the reminder!