Wednesday, October 27, 2010
Hallo-weeee will get through this
Last year I stayed home on Halloween with a few of my children. We had not been in our new house very long and there was much, much, much acting out. It was the perfect evening to sabotage. So we had a quiet evening at home. Did some things together, but it was low key and not the sensory overload that is Gonzales Texas' rockin' Halloween festivities.
This year is different. My goodness, it is a little crazy to look back on all of the healing that has happened in the past 365 days. Moving, of course, took everyone a step backward. But wow - we have certainly caught up and blown the doors off all things attachment. It has been hard, hard work with a dash of niacin.
So, one of my kids is starting to feel the urge to sabotage. Their "hurt part" says, "You didn't get to go to the crazy BIG stuff last year because you're bad. So, blow it again this year!" Now, the most humorous part of this is how this child is dipping their toe into the retro sabotage. It's little things. Comical. So, it makes it pretty easy to redirect. Today I was actually able to say, "Really? We're gonna' do this?" lift my eyebrows and receive a smile and immediate fix.
It's just Wednesday. I'm sure things will increase, but I have no doubt I can help my kid through this one. The simple fact that Halloween, in general, is not a trigger for any of my kids anymore, is astronomical.
Remember, the healing doesn't mean that the behaviors just vanish. I used to assume that. I used to hear Nancy Thomas speak of a "last hurrah!" that some kids would have before attaching. So, of course, in my head that meant a few weeks of CRAZY and then attachment and lasting change (meaning: better behavior - right away!). I know, I know. I was pretty much smokin' dope, but we've all done it.
Happy Halloween - whatever that means for your family!
(photo by Shelley Keith, used with permission)