Tuesday, November 16, 2010

Big, giant therapeutic parenting nugget


"Parents of children with attachment disorders should not expect to change behaviour but to teach that limits can be safe and not shaming. The change in behaviour will occur through the process of the development of attachment as the child’s shame is reduced and self-regulation develops. Emphasis needs to be on relationship repair not punishment. Try to end the event with you and your child feeling as close as or closer than when it began. In fact, it isn’t over until you are." (emphasis is mine)

If you have not read Brenda's post today, stop right now and do it:

How You Be


Then read it again and again and again and again and again and again and again and again and again and again and again and again and again and again and again and again and again and again and again and again and again and again and again and again and again and again and again and again and again and again and again and again and again and again and again and again and again and again and again and again and again and again and again and again and again ...

5 comments:

brenkachicka said...

Thanks - I need this right now. Lately ugly mom has been around a lot more than nice mom at our house. Hard to remember that I am the adult when I meet opposition at every turn.
Funny how right now my fondest dream is to tell my five year old to do something AND THEN HE DOES IT. Seems like such a far off dream.

T & T Livesay said...

love you lard.

Jeanne said...

goodness. we know this... but how easy it is to forget. thank you christine!!!

Mama Drama Times Two said...

Aww..that wasn't just a parenting nugget that was more like a basket of boneless parenting. Why is it again I take my guy to therapy once a week when I could just have him sit on my lap and we'd read your blog and heal together????

Erin said...

Thank you... it's not been a great day... I needed to hear that!