Thursday, November 18, 2010

It's a week of parenting jewels

Karyn Purvis' book, "The Connected Child," was one of the first resources we read before beginning to parent children from the hard places. I gleaned many things from it, but it still wasn't practical. Like day-in-day-out, "What the heck do I do in this moment?" pracitcal.

Honestly, are any of them practical ENOUGH, outside of some expert living in your home holding your hand?

However, since seeing her in person at a conference this fall, I have since uncovered many, many more resources from her that do have a lot of practical application and they are .... my favorite thing ever ... FREE AND IMMEDIATELY AVAILABLE!!

That is why I do my YouTube videos. I want every parent to have immediate and free access to help and support. When our children heal, the world literally heals. It's a big deal, and as long as I'm breathing, I will keep looking for and fighting for a way for every hurting child to receive free therapeutic intervention.

In the MEANTIME ... I will keep sharing the gems I locate. First is an overview by Karyn Purvis:


The IDEAL Response for Parents from Tapestry on Vimeo.


That can eventually become a refresher. The actual presentation with all the nuts and bolts can be found below. It is faith-based, but everyone can pull the value of the therapeutic parenting within its framework:


Effective Discipline Strategies for Adoptive & Foster Families - Dr. Karyn Purvis from Tapestry on Vimeo.


You're gonna' hate some of it. Keeping it leveled at behavior? Going after a mosquito with an elephant gun? Yeah, I majored in that. I could teach classes on that! I am the Queen of Keeping Score. It comes naturally to me.

I needed this today ... this week. Good refreshers. Giving my children a voice. Not seeing compromises as defiance, but practicing new motor memories. Not keeping score. Good stuff, even though it sucks and goes against my natural reactions.

Brenda is handing over more goodness today, as well. How unbelievably valuable is it to have one of our own becoming an attachment therapist? AND SHARING?!?

SCORE!

15 comments:

JenniferJ said...

Thank you for posting this!!!!

Mrs. Deem said...

I'm pretty lost. I REALLY appreciate your posts. I know that this information is out there. And, I know I could find avenues to get to it. I've talked to our social workers, our pediatrician.*thhhppp* Right now. Today-- you are the ONE God sent to help. Thank you!!

miss tejota said...

Great to you for posting this and posting videos that can be supportive to other parents.

Brenda said...

GREAT information. I'll be linking you tomorrow!

Patty said...

Just love you! I first found you when I was doing some research for a class presentation on RAD (I am an MFT student) and ran across your youtube video on pee. I died!!! It was love at first site for me.

Thank you for putting your stuff out there and for all that you do to make the world a better place.

Seven From Heaven said...

I love your blog as well. My daughter was diagnosed RAD a couple months ago and i have found your blog and youtube vidoes alot of help. I love the one where you explain RAD It makes me cry everytime i see it. We are new to this (RAD and Blogging) and would love to use that video to explain it on my blog (giving you credit of course). Would that be ok?

Christine said...

Sure, you can embed my video straight from YouTube. If you use their embed feature, it is perfectly legal!

Ericka said...

Was JUST looking at the IDEAL vid yesterday. Not sure if I know exactly *how* to do it correctly 'in the moment.' Thank goodness i have LOTS of chances to try ;-)

Lauri said...

i needed this today

Thanks

Kim said...

Do we have any info on Special K? I know that's random, but they've been on my mind and I'm worried!

Amy said...

Thanks. You are reaching out and helping me as I find peace on my big couch (I think today the couch is both figurative and literal ;0)), with kids in different stages of attaching. I'm learning to respond in an attitude of goodness & love rather than power and "what is right..."

Seriously- it's a godsend.

I think He is using you (for the good things that God likes to share with us as people) Thank you, girlfriend.

Grateful,
Amy

Annie said...
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Annie said...

I LOVE these Karyn Purvis jewels. There are a lot of different audio and video tapes on her website, and I benefit from hearing them OVER AND OVER because I am slow learner, I guess. It is so hard to remember the techniques and the attitudes when you are actually with your child....

Jamie said...

Amazing and wise wise woman!

Eileen said...

I thank God for you Christine.