Karyn Purvis' book, "The Connected Child," was one of the first resources we read before beginning to parent children from the hard places. I gleaned many things from it, but it still wasn't practical. Like day-in-day-out, "What the heck do I do in this moment?" pracitcal.
Honestly, are any of them practical ENOUGH, outside of some expert living in your home holding your hand?
However, since seeing her in person at a conference this fall, I have since uncovered many, many more resources from her that do have a lot of practical application and they are .... my favorite thing ever ... FREE AND IMMEDIATELY AVAILABLE!!
That is why I do my YouTube videos. I want every parent to have immediate and free access to help and support. When our children heal, the world literally heals. It's a big deal, and as long as I'm breathing, I will keep looking for and fighting for a way for every hurting child to receive free therapeutic intervention.
In the MEANTIME ... I will keep sharing the gems I locate. First is an overview by Karyn Purvis:
The IDEAL Response for Parents from Tapestry on Vimeo.
That can eventually become a refresher. The actual presentation with all the nuts and bolts can be found below. It is faith-based, but everyone can pull the value of the therapeutic parenting within its framework:
Effective Discipline Strategies for Adoptive & Foster Families - Dr. Karyn Purvis from Tapestry on Vimeo.
You're gonna' hate some of it. Keeping it leveled at behavior? Going after a mosquito with an elephant gun? Yeah, I majored in that. I could teach classes on that! I am the Queen of Keeping Score. It comes naturally to me.
I needed this today ... this week. Good refreshers. Giving my children a voice. Not seeing compromises as defiance, but practicing new motor memories. Not keeping score. Good stuff, even though it sucks and goes against my natural reactions.
Brenda is handing over more goodness today, as well. How unbelievably valuable is it to have one of our own becoming an attachment therapist? AND SHARING?!?