Friday, December 17, 2010
Fight for fun!
Everyone is talking about the stress.
Happy Friggin' Holidays.
I spent years feeling like I was fighting against the stress. The expectations. The expected gift giving. The hours of baking. My life felt like a battle started the second week of December, and it was full on war until December 27th (about the time most of the dust settled).
I have a different approach now. I don't fight AGAINST the stress. I fight FOR the fun.
Because it's worth it.
My mindset has me visualizing my family running toward the happy and the cheerful and the festivities. Not running away from something miserable that is trying to engage us - nipping at our heels.
If something holiday-esque gets between us and actual fun and joy, then we have a few choices.
1) We can bypass it - keep it behind us and not make it a part of what we do.
2) We can make the necessary sacrifices to participate, but only because there is plenty of fun and joy to be found within the effort.
3) We can get more involved and help give the whole darn thing a face lift so that it oozes joy and fun. Maybe everyone else is equally miserable in this event or "tradition," and no one feels strong and safe enough to step forward and encourage change.
It doesn't always work out so smoothly. Sometimes we have to choose #1 way more than #3. Sometimes we go with #2 because the joy and fun comes from knowing our participation BRINGS joy and fun to someone else. It's all a balance.
But your mindset. Your mindset makes all the difference.
Fight for fun.
Run toward the happy.
(photo by Gözde Otman, used with permission)