Wednesday, December 22, 2010

My holiday blessing for trauma momma's

I truly hope that you all have a wonderful week (and "wonderful" is relative), and that you can still find laughter and joy in your "new normal," despite the behaviors and stress.




May your legs remember to walk away before your mouth loses its loving voice.

May there be special stolen moments with your neuro-typical children, even if it is when the rest of house is in bed.

May your eyes be magically fixed from rolling as a parade of family and friends question every single choice and interaction you have with your child.

May your mind be filled with the people in your life who DO get it and DO support you, because they are the gifts that keep on giving all year long.

May there be one tiny, but unbelievable hair of a moment, when you find the strength to step outside of the behavior and see your child for who they were born to be, and who they need you to be.

May you find peace, albeit fleeting.

May you find hope.

May you find healing within yourself, again and again, so you can then teach your child how to find their own.

And may the eggnog be spiked.






(photo by nellart, used with permission)

17 comments:

The Lundys said...

Ahh, love it. :)

waldenbunch said...

Bless you, Christine, for all the encouragement and support you give to us moms. I hope YOU have a relatively stress free, blessing filled holiday. You deserve it.

Lisa said...

Having a really rough day today, this was great to read. thanks!

Chantelle said...

Needed this, thanks.

Erika said...

I know that's right!

Gloriana said...

I thank you, too, Christine. These techniques work for me, with both my NT kiddo and my Aspie. Wide application, deep fertilization. Amen.

ManyBlessings said...

"May your legs remember to walk away before your mouth loses its loving voice."

Thank-you. :)

And prayers to you to. Thank-you for all the help you give us out here.

Michelle, Dave & Babes said...

Thank you!

L said...

Christine there are days I SWEAR you have E.S.P.! As you know, I am not a mommy BUT I have my own trauma history and I was sooo HOPING (and needing) a post from either you or one of the other ladies that parent trauma, regarding the intensity and stress of the holidays and how they can, years later, impact the person who was traumatized. Logically I KNOW that but yet I find myself really struggling this season--partly due to some stuff that is going on with family that I don't think even YOU would believe!! Although...you HAVE seen a lot so maybe you would lol! Thanks for all you do, Lori (Maine)

Jen said...

Actually laughing out loud (not just typing it).

Thanks for the funny (and TOTALLY TRUE) blessings. May the Lord return them to you 10 fold (except for the spiked eggnog. . . that may be a bit much.)

Jeri said...

May all of the above be true and may I head straight for the spike and skip the eggnog.

April said...

Thank you...if I had of only read this earlier maybe this would have been true..."May your legs remember to walk away before your mouth loses its loving voice." Thanks for posting this. Tomorrow I will start new and remember your post, but for now I'm having my red wine, fighting the urge to throw the tree out side and hoping for people to come into our lives that DO get it.

Trauma Mama said...

Well written!
May you and yours be blessed this Christmas.

J. said...

love it, hope your next few days are calm and rageless...
Merry, Merry Day to you and yours.

Teddi said...

Love it! Thank you for giving me some good perspective...I've decided to come out of my RAD-mom lurking shell and tell you that you have made my day! Merry Christmas and may all the blessings you wrote about be yours!

coffeemom said...

Bless you. And right back at ya! It's still Christmas, until Epiphany...so those wishes are ongoing, for us all. Merry Christmas!

Sean's Ladies said...

thank you for your thoughtfulness.

it wasn't as hellish as years past. . .that's good, right?

hope you had a good one