Wednesday, December 15, 2010

Pee is universal



If you are parenting a child of trauma and you have younger kids in your home, you know the mess this can create.

You can walk in one day to discover your 5-year-old attached child getting upset about something. Instead of showing some sass or having a typical 5-yr-old throw down, you discover this child mimicking a trauma rage.

Cause they've learned from the best.

Of course, in this house, you can only imagine what an easy set-up it was for the youngest to figure out how to speak in pee instead of, oh just refusing to pick up, etc.

Of course, this is not trauma related, so it's not a daily thing. But alas. It is pee. It is not in an appropriate receptacle.

I loathe the pee (holy CRAP, do I look like warmed over death in that video - it triggers ME just looking at it!).

I have to work harder on a poker face with the pee than with any other whonky behavior we have yet to experience, and that is saying a LOT.

Yesterday I was singing the urine blues. Today that child has decided there may be more effective ways to get what they want and have their voice heard.

I'm going to the health food store later to find a homeopathic "make them forget everything they have ever seen or heard from an older sibling" pill. Really hoping they're not too pricey.


(very appropriate photo by Michal Zacharzewski, used with permission)

17 comments:

Brenda said...

Those were the days my friend. I thought they'd never end. But they do, don't they? If they passed for your traumatized child I bet they pass even faster for this one!

Hannah_Rae said...

We've just started to get into the pee-talking thing. Not. Fun. Thankfully, it's not a main language. Do you have stock in vinegar yet?

Blessings!

Hannah

Integrity Singer said...

gurl, ain't that some sh!t.

WG is doing all kinds of RADs crap because Sissy is such an awesome role model that way. lmao

Heather said...

Seriously I think the pee and poop thing just might be a huge trigger for ME! Just 5 minutes ago my son walked in the room with poop falling out of his pants because he wasn't wearing underwear. Pretty sure it took everything I have to keep from exploding!

Oh, we should be the most patient people in the world after a few years right?

Jamey... said...

Well, my bio four year old has taken notes from his younger sister regarding where and when we do or do not pee. And then there's the fact that my two year old now has "rage tantrums" about everything because his sister does.

Kerrie said...

I know that warmed-over death look. I have it on right now.

Kendall said...

Oh the pee.....we've had a few bad pee days. Thank you for posting.

noisycolorfullively said...

Pee puddles are perfectly pleasant compared to the poop prizes precisely placed in our house.

Poop makes my head explode. Serioulsy. I'd rather find a puddle of pee any day!

Isn't it amazing the things you never thought you'd be greatful for - Like I'm really glad my kid simply peed in his closet rather than leaving a steamy turd! Oh, my life is absurd! But always full of surprises :)

Mama Drama Times Two said...

Still finding dried (crystalized to be precise!) urine in places you wouldn't think possible courtesy of the 5 year old who went home recently. ARGGHHHHHH. We have a poster in our kitchen that says "Use your words to say how you are feeling, Not your hands and not your body".Apparently I forgot that 5 year olds don't read. Double ARGGGGGHHHHH>

J. said...

yep, we have a peeer and pooper and the peer likes to mimic the pooper when he gets a chance but the poopeer does not imitate the peeer. It is interseting... I iwll be fascintated to see what happens when we add more kids to the mix.

anya* said...

I am so confused, yet grateful, as to how we avoided this whole urine issue. Hmmm.

Angela :-) said...

Not urine related, but I hear ya on the younger one mimicking the attachment disordered ones.

Angela :-)

Eileen said...

let me know where to get that pill when you find it, we have the same issue with learning from a sibling - though pee has never been our issue, thankfully.

Kristine said...

Seeing some serious mimicking behavior recently in our 3yo. He idolizes his older brother, so why wouldn't he try to act like him?

It has to be confusing for him though, because he really doesn't want us to be upset with him.

Let me know when you find that pill!

Cathy Givans said...

When you find the pill, please invest in some for me....or at the very least tell me where I can find them! :)

Annie said...

Pee, by the grace of God, has not been in the repertoire, however, I have notice other similar "imitations" - in our case it is yelled obscenities, slammed doors, waving of knives or other weapons and physical attack. This is unfortunate, since the imitator is so darned much stronger than the originator. However, I think it is a lot better than pee.

a Tonggu Momma said...

Oh dear. And now all I can see is everyone else's faces at the BlogHer breakfast table when we were commiserating about The Pee. If they were dieting, I bet they loved us.