Friday, January 14, 2011

Keeping the silly

We have had some stressful on-goings lately - what with friends having birthdays and mom sneaking away for an overnight girls thing.

I have had to put on my silly game. My mission? Get a smile.

That is my new "thing." I forget to be silly. So, a great way to remember is this:

When things start getting off kilter, my job is to make my child smile.




I can't dive into a battle or stay engaged in the crazy if that is my goal. It helps me, too. It keeps me from being overly sarcastic with the therapeutic stuff. Keeps me from triggering them.

If my kid is getting down with the nonsense chatter, or bossy or putting stuff where it doesn't belong or (*insert one of the million behavior choices here*), I address it, but I have to, have to, have to, have to seek out a smile in the process.

No, I don't WANT to do it, but still - genius.

(photo is a perfect example of this approach - you could just SHOW your child this picture to startle them out of their crazy)

19 comments:

Nobody said...

"If my kid is getting chatty..."
Can you explain what you mean by that?

J. said...

I tend to sing opera, I can't sing, it is always good for a laugh.

Trauma Mama said...

I have been working on my smile, but man it is hard! Keeping it light does keep my kids from going bananas though.

I think I need to tattoo "SMILE" on their foreheads. Then maybe I won't forget.

Future Mama said...

Haha. Cute.

Much love,
Future Mama
http://expectingablessing.blogspot.com/

Christine said...

"Chatty" as in "nonsense chatter."

Christine said...
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Christine said...

Sorry. Will redefine. Assumed you all read my mind. HA!

Erika said...

I dance a silly dance. The robot usually does the trick.

Laura Dodson said...

I jammed and danced without making a sound right in front of the TV during the Dinosaur Train theme song. Does that count? ;o)

Jeremiah actually smiled!!!!!!!!!!!!

No laugh, but a smile and I'll take it.

(The word verification right now is "reedu" I love me a reedu!)

The Lundys said...

I love you. :)

Over Yonder said...

I do that too! it works especially well with my daughter who would argue with the wall if she didn't have me. So now when she starts to argue I will point to the wall...and make a silly face.It's done wonders haahhaha!

triplehmoms said...

Do you think that this would work with tattling--and I mean nonsense tattling here, not something that is a safety/health issue?
and my word verification is winey. Yep, I've got one winey hiney in my house!

Brenda said...

Yup. Do that one. Gets em out of the "flight/fight" part of the brain back into the "Logic" part.

Jenn said...

Oh, I really, really, really need to work on this one. I suck at silly. Always have (ask my parents....). Gonna give it a try, as Hubs is deploying shortly, and it's about to get really crazy around here. Thanks.

Marcy said...

I don't have the RAD stuff you deal with, just the strongwilled issues. I try to be silly too. When I did a dork dance today there were NO smiles. I said "What, no one is laughing at me???" To which the smart alec said "Mom you just look par...pat...parthetic." Me "Ok, don't smile then...Oh wait, I just told you not to smile..." mission accomplished. Ha.

Mandy said...

lol! I love the comments as much as the post!! Great reminder - things can easily get too serious... where's the fun?!

By the way - the other day my 6yr old foster son came in to ask me his 1,222,987 question of the day and I immediately began saying the pledge of allegiance. (watched that video you made recently.) The next question - he got to hear me sing a song about Santa's Elves that I learned in like the 4th grade that I could never successfully forget. Guess what.. he doesn't seem interested in asking me nonsense questions today... weird...

Integrity Singer said...

Lisa said you need love.
(((((LOVE)))))

Kerrie said...

I'm having a horrible time with this right now. Your "Hang On" post brought me to tears, that's how bad this week has been. How can I get her to smile when I can't get myself to do it?

matryoshka said...

You. Are. My. Idol. We just had a 20 minute medicine battle from which I had to withdraw because I failed miserably. I am lousy at the "Make 'em Laugh" game.