Wednesday, April 27, 2011

18 months of dreads



"How long are you going to keep them?"

Um, I don't know. Forever? Two more weeks? I have no desire to NOT have them right now.

"Do you still like them?"

No. I still love them. Just like any way you style your hair, I have days I want a change. I have days I want to cut them off. No different than you. However, I have more days that I DON'T want to do any of those things now that I have dreads. I think some people were just meant to let their hair go on its own. Apparently, I am one of those people. It suits me. My hair makes me happy and it perfectly fits my deliberately simplified lifestyle.

"How do you maintain your dreads?"

I don't! That's why I have dreads. They just ... hang there. I listen to my scalp. If I feel itchy or greasy, I wash my hair (baking soda and apple cider vinegar rinses). That may be every three days or it may be once a week. Depends. I just pay attention and do it when it says so. Every once in awhile my girls will watch a movie while weaving in some of my frizzies. Or I'll go weeks with my frizzies flying all over the place. People sometimes stare. People sometimes gawk. I don't mind. My hair IS a little strange and fascinating. I'm a walking exhibit. Whatevs.

"Do you take all that stuff out of there - ever?"

I have peyote stitch sleeves and beads stuck here and there. I rarely take them out (except for a fiber bead I have that likes to fall apart if it gets washed). I have made a few. I have been given a few. I just leave them. I move them around occasionally, because the thickness and shape of each dread changes from time to time. But usually they just sit there, waving at people.

"What does your husband think?"

Even when I still appeared more conventional, I was constantly changing my hair. It has always been like a canvas to me. My husband has said the same thing for years, "Do what makes you happy. You are the most beautiful when you are happy." That has never changed. I never have to ask. I watch his face when he looks at me. He finds me amazingly beautiful.

Eighteen months this week.

11 comments:

Joni K. Martin said...

you ARE amazingly beautiful! And i love your dreads! :) they have changed so much since I first started following your blog!

Kristi said...

I love your dreads. In Orlando I wanted to just look at them and love them. Seriously. I have no desire for dreads in my hair but I really think that dreads are beautiful - on people who love them. I saw a man this weekend with long blonde dreads they were easily down to the middle of his back or longer. They were perfectly dreaded so I know they were in for a long time. I wanted to ask him how long his hair has been dreaded but I was a chicken. :-)

Natalie Reyna said...

I can't believe it's been 18 months wow! I just colored a totally awesome rainbow in a girls hair last night. It made we want to do it to mine. I'm not aloud till dec 17. I have braids and piercings for now

Sara said...

I love love love dreads on you. They are PERFECT in every way. Thanks for continuing to share your journey. xxoo

jennyonthespot said...

I simply adore you...

Shonda said...

"You are the most beautiful when you are happy." Love that line!!! Smart man!

Mama Drama Times Two said...

Happy Birthday to your beautiful dreads...and your husband is just the best in every way!

Emma said...

makes me miss my dreads. enjoy them! if you do ever decide to say good bye to them, you will always miss them.

Lisa said...

I think your hair is signature. I started following your blog after you already have them, and can't imagine you looking any other way. Love to the dreads!

Erika said...

I can remember questions and comments coming up during our foster parent class - as if the worst thing that could ever happen is that their foster kids might embrace personal style choices different from their own (I can think of no other way to put it). I wish I had this post for them then. So I hope those of us reading remember this when our teenagers come home with the dreaded locks or piercings or (God forbid) tattoos or whatever: They are most beautiful when they are happy.

Zoie @ TouchstoneZ said...

Your dreads are gorgeous! I had mine for many, many years. I have my children's baby hair woven into them.

Last year, while 37 weeks pregnant, decided in one day to cut them all off. Nobody suggested I think about it and I just did it. I've regretted it ever since. It's like losing a beloved pet.

I saved most of my dreads. I'm seriously considered having them put back on like extensions.