Wednesday, June 08, 2011

Could someone please tell me to shut up?

Take a love for words, enough neurological funk to create excessive talking when I'm excited/nervous/pissed off, the ability to think on my feet, and add in a child who is taking out their pain on me.

What do you get?

You get what I am currently calling "Wednesday morning."

I need to shut it up. I'm talking WAY too much. I'm getting WAY too snippy. I'm ENGAGING.

It's almost comical (almost) how yesterday I was amazingly therapeutic with a completely different child after this happened:

Was thinking on my feet. Did not allow them to pull me into the battle, and used humor to diffuse the situation. There were at least two other very deliberate attempts after the door thing, to try to create negative attention. I was a rock star. One of them crossed a big line that definitely sent my insides into freak out mode, but I talked myself down.

This morning? What the heck? I have got to switch things around with this other child. I have to. I know it. I'm having a hard time letting go of the proverbial lines I have drawn in the sand that this kid is now dancing around. The lines aren't important. Helping them with their pain is important. I know that. I know it. Really, I do.

So, someone needs to tell me to shut up, and then please throw some of my own advice back at me. Oh, and be funny - because I always make you laugh when I'm telling you something you hate.

Thank you, in advance.


Joni K. Martin said...

I wish I had something smart-alec, clever, hilarious or otherwise ingenious to say, but I'm spending alot of time talking myself down lately, like you. ;-) Its times like this when I go to the StoryPeople website and read their quotes and smile really big because they are so great. Here's one for you today:
Are we your real children? they said & I said we had our pick of all the children in the world & we took a few home to try out & though we tried to return them later, it was more trouble than it was worth, so we kept them & loved them & taught them all the stuff they'd need to know when it came time for them to choose, so they wouldn't make the same mistakes we did & later I heard one of them say they didn't know about being a parent if it was as risky as all that. (Brian Andreas)

And, if that didn't really help, well, Jack Handey is my go-to-guy.

Sometimes when I feel like killing someone, I do a little trick to calm myself down. I'll go over to the persons house and ring the doorbell. When the person comes to the door, I'm gone, but you know what I've left on the porch? A jack-o-lantern with a knife stuck in the side of its head with a note that says "You." After that I usually feel a lot better, and no harm done. (Jack Handey)

:) You're great, Christine, keep up the good work!

Ranger said...

My utter favourite of your vids, the one I glue myself to on a bad day is 'the power of being present'. Particularly seeing you do the visual, close your mouth. Just sit. Oh it works when I can make myself remember to do it, that's a gem. It's as good as your vid with the really full cup of coffee ;) Hugs, hope the day gets easier.

Lindsay Mama to Nine said...

My five year old shaved my cat yesterday....and I managed to laugh, mention she is going to be much cooler and shake it off. Today she wiped 7 dozen bloody boogers all over her pillows and bedding, but managed to appologize, and clean it up herself...after managing a "this bedding sure looks nice"...and her feeling safe to share...she said, "well since you didn't get mad at that,I want you to know I peed on your pillow last week." ....Badum-bun-ching...and the theraputic Mo-jo....downthe tubes....good luch getting your Mojo back...if you find yours...let me know, I will be in my laundry room disinfecting my pillow.

Dia por Dia said...

“The first big tip is … whatever you feel like doing do the opposite. If your child is escalating and you’re having a conversation and… their escalation is growing, that’s your cue. You’re not helping. You need to STOP TALKING (or go down to a whisper.) Practice. Practice. Practice. Practice. You’ll get better. Promise. You can totally do this. Cheers!”

Dia por Dia said...

I have two children you can come practice on over here before you have to do the "real thing" with yours today. So come on over. I will be the one waiting for you in the van parked in my driveway blaring Jo Dee Messina's "My Give a Damn's Busted."

Christine said...

You are all the BEST. I'm currently practicing keeping my mouth shut. We are going through our very typical battle, and I realize that I never give it time to play out. I ALWAYS TALK!

Today my motto is what I tell my kids all the time: "Your lips look lonely. Keep them very close together."

Becky said...

Tis the end of the school year for us, thus every bit of therapeutic parenting has been sucked right outta me.

I seem to be in a bad spot myself as I am now finding the thought of shock collars hysterically funny ;-D

(I know ... I'm a lil warped ... and have lost a few marbles along the way.)

Rx for you: babysitter followed by margaritas. Hugs <3

Anonymous said...

Play this little game, called: WWCD? (What Would Christine Do?) Or you can play WWCD? (What would Corey Do?) but then do the opposite. ;-)

Anonymous said...

I will never, ever tell you to shut up. Your voice out in this world is like a breath of fresh air.

I totally voted for you. And will keep on voting. You blog rocks and it has been my fav for a long time.

J. said...

Shut up - that was fun to say, can I say it again, Shut up - unless of course you are going to sing and if you are singing make sure it is something they would never expect like a song about ME, then find yourself a treat for not blowing it, personally I would go for a margarita.
Hang in there

Christine said...

J is a funny bunny.

Say it again, J. Come on ... you know you want to! :)

flowersoup said...

Your day's a little stinky?
Here's a little linky:

You can do it!

Christine said...

Mega epic super awesomeness!