One of our cats has a special gift. It has diarrhea every. single. solitary. time. it's in the cat carrier. Extra pungent, nasty runs. So much so that the vet always comments on just how bad the smell is.
My cat grosses out the VET. A gift, I tell you.
Of course, sometimes you have to get your cat to the vet. The drive into town and back is a long one. You know how it's gonna' play out. You bring extra towels. You make sure you're ready to give him a bath afterward. You utilize expert mouth breathing when the vet leaves you to hold down your poo-covered cat while she reads the slides.
This is the part where Christine makes a brilliant poo analogy.
Sometimes there are things we need to do in order to grow. That process, however, will cause some undesired stuff. We find ourselves at a crossroads. "I really don't want to deal with the cat poo, but I also know my cat is miserable with the mange. I must make a choice."
To be a better parent, you may need to deal with your own history first. To deal with your own history is going to feel like you've been covered in feline diarrhea. It's going to be messy and miserable and STINK! Yet, you can't get to the healing without the poo.
To be a better partner or spouse, you may need to face your own issues first. Owning the fact that you sometimes play mind games is going to be putrid. Admitting your jealousies and insecurities is going to feel like you're wrestling with muck. Yet, you can't get to the healing without the poo.
You can apply this to any area of growth. Really. What really (obvious pun) stinks about it, is that the poo part makes us more resistant to doing the work. We don't reach these points without having already weathered a lot. We are tired. We are hurting. We don't care if we are a part of the problem, we just want the problem to GO AWAY. And we have a decision to make.
We can walk away.
Or we can begin to prep for the poo. We can gather towels. We can make sure we have what we need for clean up afterward. We can prepare our minds, knowing that it will be gross and hard ... but worth it.
We can't get to the healing without the poo.