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very very informative and helpful christine. maybe...

2009-07-11T03:03:47.386-05:00

very very informative and helpful christine. maybe YOU should write the books about RAD. you sure have a knack for explaining what's going on without being depressing. :) blessings! god goes before you.

It is so time consuming!! How do you home school, ...

2009-07-11T02:15:37.577-05:00

It is so time consuming!! How do you home school, too? It is hard, too, when I feel like the other kids don't get my--any--attention. UGH!

Wow, I am going to put a link to this and hopefull...

2009-07-10T18:52:36.409-05:00

Wow, I am going to put a link to this and hopefully some of our family will read it- your Rocky reminds me so much of Cherry she does the EXACT same thing. However, I have Never handled it this way!
Thank you:)

Oh what a super sluth you have to be!!! Let your g...

2009-07-10T17:39:16.640-05:00

Oh what a super sluth you have to be!!! Let your gaurd down and let them get away with even one rediculous thing and it snowballs doesn't it? *hugs* I don't doubt that as the move gets closer and closer the ramping up will increase!!

Second verse the same as the first. It is like we ...

2009-07-10T15:24:15.999-05:00

Second verse the same as the first. It is like we have the same conversations over and over and just change the words a little. I look forward to the day when you say "This is what life used to be like at our house and this is a conversation we would have had at that time." I believe the day will come!

I am always impressed by you, your guy, and your k...

2009-07-10T12:13:06.437-05:00

I am always impressed by you, your guy, and your kids. I don't have a RAD issue, but there are times that I want to give my 18mo old a swirly. We've no clue what we're doing. :)

Tim

Oh how I wish we had an RV! I could use some lesso...

2009-07-10T11:27:49.315-05:00

Oh how I wish we had an RV! I could use some lessons.

Thanks, Christine. That helped a lot. I am going to try that. It is going to drive Gabe NUTS! :)

Blessings,

Hannah

Oh, and I'm going to copy this to Kaleb so he can read it.

Thanks so much. I needed this post. It's great...

2009-07-10T10:05:14.979-05:00

Thanks so much. I needed this post. It's great to "see" that I am not the only one who spends my days like this (although you are much more graceful at it than I am). We "dodge and plow" our way through so many seemingly "little deals" each and every day and sometimes I forget what it looks like to others.

copycat

2009-07-10T09:20:00.141-05:00

copycat

Hannah, with the constant barrage of nonsense ques...

2009-07-10T08:35:14.623-05:00

Hannah, with the constant barrage of nonsense questions (which in the earlier months were mind numbing) I would just answer each and every question with something like, "Why, yes, I did know you smell like pickle!"

The first time, they looked at me weird I said, "Ask a nonsense question, get a nonsense answer!" I would always say SOMETHING about a pickle, and it would get really old, really fast ... ya' know, just the way we were all getting really tired really fast with the nonsense stuff.

Now, of course, the nonsense stuff is much less. So, when it does emerge, it's a clear sign to talk about something. In the earlier days, though, we did more of the "99 Ways to Drive Your Child Sane." We would constantly - but gently - let them know we are smart and they are safe.

When it's still in the very constant state, I would keep it very, very silly. This is your way of gauging how on-edge they are all. the. time. Just pickle him to DEATH, with a smile. And then after you give him a pickle answer, you can say happily, "Hey! Check it out! You felt like you didn't have control. You talked nonsense. I KNEW you were talking nonsense. And yet - WOW! You are still safe. You are still loved. YOU ARE SAFE WITH ME! WOW! We rock!"

When they are in that "constant" mode, silly up everything. Living in their head is a constant state of punishment. They just need you to redirect them, and they need to see a smile all the way up to your eyes.

Their brains will start to adjust - very slowly - very. But it will start to build new and positive ruts in their "defaults" up there. Think like the mom of a toddler. Redirect, redirect, redirect, and funny, silly, funny, silly, more funny more silly!

I always feel so ready for my day after one of you...

2009-07-10T07:51:34.733-05:00

I always feel so ready for my day after one of your down-and-dirty posts.

The "dumb-ness" really gets to me. So, ...

2009-07-10T07:40:05.449-05:00

The "dumb-ness" really gets to me.

So, when Gabe plays dumb, I need to reassure him that he is safe?

He has been using a lot of "I don't trust you" statements lately in forms of asking me stupid questions that he knows I know the answer to. "Mom did you know...." I follow up these statement with "You can trust that I know what's going on/I will take care of the situation/I will do what I said I was going to do...etc..." Is that the right approach?

Gosh I feel like I'm floundering in this.

Blessings,

Hannah

OOoooooowwweeeee! This is so good! Do you live in...

2009-07-10T06:44:02.564-05:00

OOoooooowwweeeee! This is so good!
Do you live in our house or do we live in yours?